When we experience mental, emotional or physical distress the pain can feel too much to bare. We can become totally overwhelmed and feel as though the turmoil will never end and that there is no way out of it. But what if pain is a gift in disguise?

A sudden death, the ending of a relationship, or a physical trauma can spiral us into feelings that we have never experienced before and render us paralysed and helpless.

As an emotional & spiritual mentor I have been assisting thousands for over three decades with their life’s challenges. My clients have usually come to me for one of two reasons. The first is wanting to know their future and hoping for a pain free journey, the other is wanting to leave a painful past or present situation behind.

Emotional pain is a gift in disguise

What I have discovered is that our pain body, whether it be conscious or unconscious within us is running both our waking and sleeping lives. Our pain is desperate for our recognition. It is screaming out for our attention every moment of everyday and can create such symptoms as anxiety, panic, depression, and physical or mental imbalances.

We have created all sorts of tricks and ways to numb our pain, to avoid it and to convince ourselves that we are only going through a phase. And that if we hang on long enough it will go away sooner or later and become a distant memory.

If only we could realise that in fact our pain is a divine messenger and is a gift in disguise. That it is looking for acknowledgement of its existence and that it loves us so much it will not leave us alone until we receive its gifts of self-love and self-acceptance! Our pain is also there to alarm us to when we are disconnected from the core of our true selves, our divine intelligence, and our own inner power.

Emotions are life’s compass

For example, when emotions feel too much to handle in our lives, it also means that we are either expecting too much of ourselves or too much of others. And trust me, your expectation is guaranteed to set you up for disappointment and disillusionment.

Pain, no matter what form it takes in our lives, can also mean we are not being true to our feelings and are denying what is the most powerful guide we have, which is our intuition.

So how do you safely and effectively release your pain?

Firstly, through your deepest desire to transform pain. This then sets the powerful foundation of your intentionwhich is the beginning of a successful healing process.

Secondly, through your willingness to take full responsibility for what you are feeling.

And I know this can be difficult when we feel our hearts have been broken and we have been wrongly done by, but this is also how your personal freedom is found. Because when you realise that no one else can make you miserable (unless you have those unrealistic expectations that your happiness is someone else’s responsibility) you become empowered!

And thirdly, to create a quiet space where you know you won’t be disturbed so you can honour the process of sitting with your feelings, so you can relax into the present moment and use your imagination to begin talking to your emotional, mental or physical pain body.

So let your pain know you are there in a non-judgemental way for it.

Breath - the great transformer

Listen with no expectation to your body and what might reveal itself, any sensation or discomfort that may appear and then begin to direct your breathing in and out of where you are feeling any anxiety, grief, or discomfort. Keep breathing slowly and deeply and if the sensation moves to another place in your body, then take your breathe to that region. Continue this until either your emotions begin to well up and release naturally or you feel a shift physically.

Giving gratitude and love to your pain is the only way to truly transform it permanently. And this has been proven to me every time when I have guided a person into the journey of their pain.

So love your pain and be aware of when you are making decisions based on fear or doubt and not the true feelings you are experiencing inside of yourself about something or someone.

Book into my SuperVision Sessions to learn more about your power and potentials and why your pain has been your path to your true purpose.

In Loving Service

Jennifer Starlight